Every year I set myself 1-2 New Year’s resolutions and like 90% of the population, by the end of January I’ve broken every single one. However, after some much needed Yule meditation and a bit of careful thinking, I think I’ve managed to come up with a list of achievable resolutions, how do I know? Well…
They are based on self-care and good intentions!
When I had a think back to all the resolutions I’d set before, not one of them was actually based on benefitting me directly. Things like:
- Lose weight
- Learn a language
- Read more books
- Eat less chocolate
They were all based on me wanting a ‘quick fix’ for the frustrations and unhappiness in my life, for example:
- Losing weight and eating less chocolate = having an unhealthy relationship with my body and how I look
- Learn a language = frustration with being unable to travel and wanting to pretty much change who I was completely
- Read more books = based off being stressed out and burned out from work and not having a good work life balance (I set this knowing that I hate reading… why would you do that?)
Understanding where the resolutions stem from
It may seem like I’m clutching at straws a bit, but hear me out!
Knowing where your resolutions are coming from and the REAL intention behind them, will tell you whether or not you’ll be able to stick with them long term. If you base your New Year’s resolutions on positive intentions, like wanting to improve your health for the right reasons, or learning a new skill to move you forward towards your goals, I can guarantee you’ll have a better chance of making them last.
I find that meditation helps me to identify the best resolutions, it helps me to think about what I need from the upcoming year and less of what I want. I may want to be a dress size 10 and have amazing legs, but that’s not what I need. I think about my biggest frustrations, or issues that I’m currently facing or have faced in the past year and think about what would help me move forward and overcome those things.
Think about what you want to be like by the end of next year, or what you’d like to have achieved and that is when you can start to pull together your goals.
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What are my New Year’s resolutions?
I’ve got a few, but I wanted to share a few of the main ones, what positive intentions they have been born out of and what I’ve got planned for achieving them.
Focus on gut health and experiment with my diet to find balance – If you follow me on Instagram (and you really should!) you’ll have seen that I’ve been having a nightmare with my gut recently. I’ve always had a slight dairy intolerance but these past few months have been unreal. So, in 2019, to help me feel less bloated, give me more energy and keep my gut health in top condition, I’ll be sorting my diet out, starting with Veganuary! Hopefully by cutting a lot of things out and slowly re-introducing things, will help me try and find the culprit!
Continue with aerial hoop whilst I travel – This year I discovered the world of aerial hoop and I’ve completely fallen in love. Not only does it keep my body strong and flexible, but it has also done wonders for my mental health. I’ll be travelling a lot next year, so this is my toughest resolution, but I’m determined dammit!
Continue to learn about Wicca – I did a whole post on why I’ve turned to Wicca to help me with my mental health and it really has. So, I’ve set myself a resolution to continue my learning in 2019.
Dedicate more time to my blog and creating content – I love being creative, it’s a form of meditation for me, so it makes me a bit sad that I’ve let it slip so much. As I’ll be travelling in New Zealand solo next year, I’ve decided that I want my blog and YouTube channel to become a sort of diary for me, a place where I can go for some social interaction and share all the awesome things I’ll be doing. There’s a lot of changes coming to this blog over the next few weeks, so that will be my motivation for starting January with a bang!
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Really enjoyed my #Yule ritual! Saying goodbye to the old and welcoming the new! I also grabbed myself these Yule-tastic red candles from @crystalhenge as well as a tigers eye pendulum, which I have 100% fallen in love with and already tested out with great success! Looking forward to what 2019 will bring and what adventures and challenges the universe throws my way. 🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙 Heading into 2019 I’m feeling extremely comfortable in my own skin. Not only with my body (even though I’m the heaviest I’ve been in a very long time) but also in who I am as a person. Confidence is not something that has come easily and there’s been a lot of ups and downs, breakdowns and anxiety, but I’ve finally reached a point where I can honestly say that I love being me ❤️ I’ve done some AMAZING things this year, started a new hobby (slash obsession) with aerial hoop, met the best people at said hoop classes, joined @weblognorth and met even more awesome, inspiring and crazy talented people, walked the Great Wall of China and raised over £3,150 plus a lot of travelling in between all of that. 2018 hasn’t been a terrible year for me (it’s been horrendous for some!) but I have a really good feeling about 2019! So Happy Yule everyone, embrace the year ahead and make big plans for next year! 🙌🏻❤️🌙
The key to setting amazing New Year’s Resolutions
I think the key of New Year’s resolutions is knowing what you want to achieve and how it benefits you or those around you in a positive and healthy way. It’s also very important to remember that you shouldn’t feel guilty should you fail, because if it failed, it wasn’t meant to be. If a resolution is too hard to keep up long term, it’s not for you or it is not what you are supposed to achieve right now.
I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and that includes the decisions we make and what we are capable of achieving. If you don’t achieve something, it’s because you aren’t meant to right now or maybe ever! Sometimes it can mean that you are supposed to achieve that thing, but you’re going about it the wrong way.
So, if you’ve got New Year’s resolutions you are looking to action come January 1st 2019, then remember to form them with good intentions and don’t be disheartened if they just don’t work for you, life’s a journey so just enjoy the ride!